How to Date a Single Parent
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When searching for an eligible Greek to share your life with, chances are you meet all kinds of people. One of the potential scenarios you could be faced with is dating someone who has children. This can add some complications to your dating life. Here are some tips on how to survive dating someone who has children.
Decide if You’re Okay With It
How do you really feel about the fact that your potential love-interest has children? Can you be in a relationship with someone who already has kids? If you realize that this will always make you feel uncomfortable, don’t schedule a date with this person. You don’t want to enter into a relationship you aren’t in a relationship with which you are not comfortable.
Go Out on One Date
However, before you completely rule them out, it is a good idea to go on one date. It couldn’t hurt to meet them for dinner or for drinks and spend an evening together. This will give you a chance to get to know each other better. Plus, you never truly know why someone is put into your life.
For example, maybe you will make a contact that will lead to a new job. Or, maybe the real love of your life is your date’s cousin or best friend. Keep an open mind and it may lead to something even better.
The Children Come First
Before you enter into a relationship with someone who has kids, it helps to understand that the children may always come first. So, if you are the type who constantly needs to feel like the number one, most important person in your partner’s life, it is not a good idea for you to be with someone who already has kids. No matter how important you are the children will always come before you.
Set Your Limits
Once you get into a relationship with someone who has kids, it is a good idea to discuss with your partner your boundaries. For example, it may not be acceptable for you discipline the kids. Or, you may not want to get involved in disputes and let the biological parents handle conflicts. Talking this out from the beginning will help keep the peace between you, the kids, and the biological parents.
If your relationship progresses to the point where you spend a lot of time with your partner and the kids, your next step is to determine if you are comfortable with his parenting style. When he disciplines the children, is it with a heavier hand than you agree with? Do you feel he isn’t tough enough? If you have different parenting styles it may not be a good idea to continue seeing each other.
No matter what happens, the best thing you can do is be yourself, especially in front of the children. If you are comfortable with who you are, it will be easier for the children to accept you. Remember that if you feel uncomfortable about anything, you shouldn’t continue to see each other.
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